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People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practice what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek? Father, Father, Father help us
Send us some guidance from above
‘Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love? Extract from the song:
Where is the Love?
Artist: Black Eyed Peas f/ Justin Timberlake
Album: Elephunk |
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A child is a precious gift of life and this is why children deserve our abounding love and protection. |
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Parental Alienation - An unjustifiable sin! |
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Denying access to your children, is a common behavioural trait among vindictive or malicious spouses, and is commonly used by the applicant’s in cases of domestic violence. The applicant will argue that they are acting in the child's best interest, and will even employ the services of a social worker to confirm their belief, and also to prove that you are an abuser. Although vindictive spouses have been using this technique for centuries to hurt or provoke their partners it is only now recently being recognized as behaviour that is not in the best interests of the child. In South Africa this cruel and destructive practice is not well known, but in the USA and most of the civilized world it is "officially" recognized as “Parental Alienation Syndrome” or PAS for short. Be extremely wary of social workers who have been referred to you by the applicant in a domestic violence matter. Although social workers will normally act in the best interest of the child, there are certain factors that you must take into account before involving a social worker in your private affairs. A social worker that has been appointed by a vindictive spouse, has already been "educated" by your spouse. You already carry the dreadful label of "ABUSER". Whether you are guilty or not, the social worker will approach you with certain negative preconceptions. Be particularly wary of social workers in private practice that ask enormous fees for their services. If you are married in community of property your spouse may employ their services but YOU end up paying the bill. Do not sign anything you do not feel entirely comfortable with. Recommended Reading: |
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If you have a domestic violence protection order hanging over your head and children are involved, then here is the scenario that will in all probability take place if your spouse is vindictive: |
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(For purposes of this scenario, we will use the mother as an example) |
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- Your spouse initiates the Domestic Violence Order.
- He or she (in most cases the mother) denies access to the child or children.
- The mother, who suffers from PAS, will indoctrinate the child and ingrain a sense of "fear for daddy" in the child's mind.
- The mother will request the services of a social worker, usually a woman.
- During the first appointment with the social worker the mother will produce the protection order as so-called "proof" that you are an abuser and a danger to your child / children.
- The social worker will contact you with suggestions to set up a meeting, using the "best interests of your child" to lure you into submission.
- The social worker will request you to sign a form giving full authorization and consent to probe into your private affairs.
- As a concerned and distressed father who misses his kid(s) you comply with every request.
- The social worker arranges access under supervision and records the fact that your child children are fearful and apprehensive towards you. The investigation is now under way.
- Supervised access is suggested and depending on how much money you have to spend, a timetable of future visits is compiled.
- You see your child / children regularly under the supervision of the social worker who records every move you make and every word you say.
- After a few supervised visits the social worker appoints another person to manage the supervised access. This individual will in all probability be someone suggested by your vindictive spouse. You agree, as you have no choice in the matter.
- You wait in anticipation for the social workers report, but you are told that it will take a few more weeks to compile.
- In the interim you receive the social worker's account.
- You pay the social worker for her services and that's the last you see or hear from her.
- The social worker's report is first delivered to the mother as it places her in a positive light. You are depicted as aggressive, unstable, and definitely not capable of seeing your child / children without supervision.
- The mother flashes the damaging report to her friends and yours, the individual supervising you access visits, your divorce attorney, her divorce attorney, the police, the courts ---- in fact you will be the last person to see the report.
- The "new" supervisor becomes really worried by all the rumours and refuses to attend access visits.
- You spend more money while the respective lawyers negotiate a suitable arrangement for access. In the meant time your child / children are further alienated from you.
- You are back where you started, and because you are probably dead broke by now, there is not a single person out there who can assist you.
- If you attempt to see or speak to your child you place yourself at risk of being arrested and detained for contravening the protection order. Your vindictive spouse knows that in order to see your child / children you have to go through her, and the order prohibits you from doing that.
THE LEGAL SYSTEM HAS IN FACT BEEN USED TO PREVENT YOU FROM SEEING YOUR CHILD OR CHILDREN !
IT’S AN INJUSTICE THAT NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED URGENTLY !
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SPECIAL REPORT
THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND SEX-ABUSE ACCUSATIONS
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